Timing is everything sometimes. The timing of this Coronavirus is terrible for the wedding community, but it is even worse for the brides and grooms who have put so much time, money and effort into planning their dream wedding. My heart breaks for them, their families and their friends. The thought of not being at my best friend’s wedding or my grandmother not being able to see me walk down the aisle, or the feeling of not having a father-daughter dance with my dad are all unfathomable. All those things bring such value and create treasured memories for all involved, yet here we are, two weeks into this full fledged pandemic and weddings are being canceled and postponed. Grandparents, family and friends are missing out on witnessing the joining of two lives - two lives that they love very deeply. It is a tragedy, but I want to say one thing… we are not the first generation to have to overcome such things. Imagine going through the WW2 era. Couples ran off to get married as the love of their life was drafted to go to war or during the Great Depression when there was no money for a grand wedding. Do you want to know what we have in common with those couples? LOVE!!! You are in love with your person and they you. You want to spend the rest of your life learning to love them, growing and changing with them. A wedding is wonderful, but the only thing you have to have for a wedding is a Bride and a Groom.
My grandparents didn’t have a big wedding, there were no photographers at their ceremony, but a day before they had a photograph taken, and the day after they said “I do,” my grandfather left to go to Pensacola Naval Base to begin his training. My grandmother was supposed to wait, work and save up money while he got them settled. I love that old photograph. It hangs on the wall of my parents’ living room, further proving it is not the wedding that makes the marriage but rather the dedication, respect and love between two people.
So for all you Brides and Grooms out there who are trying frantically to figure out what to do and are heartbroken over your shattered plans, remember what your wedding is truly all about - the love between you and your soon-to-be spouse. Eloping or going to the justice of the peace might be the best option if you just can’t wait.
If you choose to go ahead and tie the knot, please let your photographer know and see if you can arrange for them to be there. That is one moment in time you cannot recreate. But if that is not possible, you might choose to have a reception or even a full ceremony later, or simply have bridal shots in the fall (I have actually done post-wedding bridal portraits!). Do whatever you feel you need to do and make sure you are loving and living to the fullest extent you can. If you are a bride who has had to move your date and need to find a photographer… please let me know. I am happy to help, and I am happy to fill in if need be.
This will pass. Life will get back to some semblance of normal. Make today and this moment count though. My prayers are with all of you as you navigate these days and weeks ahead. My hope for each of you is that you will have a long and happy marriage full of love and blessings.